Social Advice please.

[rob71]

I can't really add anything new here, the guys have summed it up perfectly. Respect to you mate, you are doing exactly the right thing in brainstorming with other caring responsible people, to come up with the best solution. I hope that the parents of these poor kids can see the error of their ways and accept the help that is being offered to them - ultimately though people can only be helped when they want to be, and it looks like things may sadly have gone past that point for the mother.
It's certainly one area that is sadly lacking over here. NZ has a shocking record when it comes to child neglect and abuse, unfortunately there are so many kids getting the crap beaten out of them on a daily basis that the ones being psychologically damaged, or sent to school with no breakfast or with no shoes on their feet, just fall through the cracks.

 

[Grant_C]

Well, put all the advice together- which was great, thanks to everyone who commented or sent a PM.

I called social services who will investigate further.

They laid my concerns to rest and said they will explore all options for support before being heavy handed.

I cannot get my head around how you could treat kids worse than an unwanted pet.

 

[Michael Sith]

Great stuff, well done mate.

It's a sad state of affairs when kids are the brunt of parental stupidity, and neglect, in a nutshell, they are the future, so should guided and cared for.

I look at my kids now, and realise that I may not live in a mansion, have millions in the bank....I have far more than that, I have x 2 well adjusted adults, that both have successful careers, respect for others and a positive outlook on life (90% down to my wonderful wife) :wink:

There's the rub, if you ask me.....kids learn by example, therefore to a certain extent, if Indolence, sloth, ignorance and stupidity are the norm, a child will unfortunately accept as the norm, and the problem becomes self perpetuating.

I agree, I cannot see how anyone can live a life like that, my family are my bloody world, your kids are a gift

Anyway mate, a big well done to you again

 

[BlueDog]

You did the right thing Grant, as hard as it is to get involved.

Thankfully not experienced the same situation but having our eldest start school this year really opens your eyes to how other families operate.

There was an incident at his school only last week where a Mother lost the plot at her daughter in my son's class, apparently shouting at the top of her voice at this poor little girl saying she was a F&cking disgrace, good for nothing and the rest. Then threw the child head first into a brick wall Imagine a child be that terrified of the one person in life duty bound to protect her.

Police called child has not been at school since, Glad to hear parents who witnessed it intervened and removed the child from danger.

No one wants to be put in a situation of having to get involved with others personal lives but when the victims are kids they often don't have a voice of their own and need an adult of sound character to help. You've done just that and regardless of the outcome you should be bloody proud of yourself mate.

 

[jabbawokkie]

1st ,,,is she fit and if kids are out way will that give you a better chance at goal ................thats a a below line joke 100 %

in reality i would have reported her in a heart bit care sounds a better option for kids

 

[tiefighterboy]

1st ,,,is she fit and if kids are out way will that give you a better chance at goal ................thats a a below line joke 100 %

in reality i would have reported her in a heart bit care sounds a better option for kids

If the kids are not clean and are abused....I am sure the catchers mitt is a sight to see.

 

[jabbawokkie]

1st ,,,is she fit and if kids are out way will that give you a better chance at goal ................thats a a below line joke 100 %

in reality i would have reported her in a heart bit care sounds a better option for kids

If the kids are not clean and are abused....I am sure the catchers mitt is a sight to see.

one way of putting it :roll:

 

[weasel]

Any developments on this?

I agree that you gotta do something for the kids sake, and this coming from someone with the paternal instincts of a stick. But anyone who leaves excrement lying around the house is in need of psychological help never mind their kids.

On a side note, I would worry about Social Services getting involved. I've had a good few dealings with them through work. You hear the term 'not fit for purpose' bandied around a lot in the news, but that is a compliment when it comes to them. Never before have I met such a bunch of arrogant, short sighted, pedantic, muppets who have no idea what the real world is like. They make daft decisions and when you point out the error of their ways they simply tell you it's your problem.
I hope the kids end up with grand parents or the like rather than in the care of those retards at Social Services.

 

[Grant_C]

No mate,

I wont know anything as they wont give me a update or tell me their evaluation. Its in their hands now.

 

[weasel]

Fingers crossed for a miracle then!

 

[jackabina]

Hats off to you Grant. There are far too many stories about situations like this that go the wrong way. You may have saved a child or two with your actions.

 

[jabbawokkie]

any type of goverment service in this country is a joke .i was in court other week and even though it was a good out come (not going in to details on here)the majestate said to other party .we wont punish you because we believe that you believed you were in right .wtf i not only believed but i was right as well in what i was doing