Life's too short...

[tundra9]

Erik, I'm just a chatbox away! If you are getting annoying, I'll just ignore you! :lol: :lol:

Chris, might come a text when I'm drunk, just to bug you! :twisted: :lol:

Cc4rhu, thanks, amazing how fragile we all really are, glad to hear you got to spend some time with
her before it got worse.

 

[.Q.]

Hey Jørn,

My 2011 was a damn diffcult year for me, and had many similarities to your first post. May I just wish all the very best to you and your family.

Dave.

 

[Joe]

Jorn, much like Frank I think you are doing a very mature and important thing by leaving behind many things which are in the grand scheme of things not that important at all.

While I was living in Romania both my Grandma's passed away within months of each other (end of 2011) and I couldn't be at either of their funerals because of work commitments, the amount of time and travel it would have taken to get me back home and the arrival of my Daughter Emma.

Not being around to see them even weekly in their last few years of life not to mention not being there at their funerals is something I honestly try not to give too much thought to, not because I am a cold heartless bastard but simply because I still feel terribly guilty about not being there for anyone of my family, firstly my Grandma's but also my parents, I can't imagine how it is to lose a parent let alone your last surviving one so I know even if they had prepared themselves for that day years beforehand it still can't have been easy.

Now..my family aren't angels, as a few of my friends here and on other boards know they were half the reason we decided to move away from England in the first place and they still aren't angels either so it can be hard for me to put aside our differences at times but it all eventually comes down to the fact that without parents, grandparents etc we wouldn't even be here to get royally pissed off with them when they act like morons so they always deserve our time and some respect even if we don't always see eye to eye.

I really do hope you get to spend some time with your Grandma/family and enjoy moments that you would have regretted not being there for if you had not decided to move back home.

All the best mate, you have a big heart and have realised what really is important, it takes a lot to do that and I am sure everyone here can recall a time when they should have done exactly what you are doing now.

 

[Lee77]

Hey Jorn.
Sorry to hear the news about your grandmother. It must be a really difficult time for you. FWIW, I think you've done the right thing. You can always collect again in the future, but you'll never be able to get this time back with your family.
Hope that the future brings you good things, and make sure you pop in from time to time, even for a drunken ramble after an all nighter!

All the best
Lee

 

[tundra9]

Thanks Joe!

but it all eventually comes down to the fact that without parents, grandparents etc we wouldn't even be here to get royally pissed off with them when they act like morons so they always deserve our time and some respect even if we don't always see eye to eye.

Couldn't agree more!

Thanks Lee, appreciated!

 

[weasel]

Sorry only reading this thread now!

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time Jorn, but like the others have said, I think you're making the right choice. We'll still be here if you wanna pop in for a chat from time to time. Heck, you don't even need to be an active collector to be a regular on here, look at me!
But life comes first and family is more important that some 30 year old lumps of plastic. Enjoy the time with your Grandma, I know most of wish we could have had more time with the people we've lost. Fair play to you making that decision and I hope you enjoy the time you have with her.

You know where we are if you wanna chat sometime, even if you just want to let off some steam, we've all been there.

Take care!

 

[flycasual]

Good luck with it all!

 

[maniac79]

Hey Jorn, thanks for pointing me to this thread. Reminds me once more I need to read the Off-Topics more often...
It's nice of you to go through all this for your gran. She will appreciate it.
Enjoy some quality time with the family and if you want to start collecting again, we are here (and @FB ).

 

[jabbawokkie]

hello there ,don t really know you or many on here nowadays ,but hats of to you for this ,you be so happy with your discision .lost all my grand parents but one nan and a;ways feel i should have visited them more .but can i just repeat a tattoo i saw on a lass in turkey and one i may have myself and think its a good thing to live ye life by even though i,m not religiuos

god only challenges with things he knows we can handle

take care

jabba

 

[lee gray]

Thanks guys!
As for collecting in the future, I'm keeping one stormie so never say never..

I'm gonna start focusing on my art as well, so my star wars lines thread will most probably
get an update bump in the coming months, so I'll still be here occasionally, just not buying anything for the foreseeable future.

you can never quit the hobby for good....saying that, all the best.

 

[tundra9]

Thanks guys, appreciate the comments!

Spoke to my mother last night, and things have made a turn for the worse I'm afraid.
My gran wants to sleep all the time now, doesn't get out of bed before noonish and is having a breakdown.
She has said things better left unsaid on here, and it sucks not being able to pop round just to have a conversation.
I don't know what to do, I'm still stuck on the other side of the country and sitting here waiting for that horrible message is dreadful.
By the looks of it she may pass on very soon...
The timing on these sort of things in life is always the best, eh?

Hope you all have had a nice christmas, and I wish you all a happy new year.
Here's to a better new year, and good things to come!

 

[itfciain]

**** mate, am sorry to hear that. It is so difficult when it gets to these times in life. It is really important that you do what you think is best - only you will know exactly what that is.

 

[tundra9]

Her doctor was there on friday and told the nurses to give her space, but he can't do anything for her other than that.
People tell me that's how life goes when you're old, like it's supposed to make it better, but it just doesn't, it still sucks,
and being here doesn't make it better.
My mother told me she has had moments when the reality of it has hit her and she actually has showed some emotions, she has been very
detached about all of it, and that made me pissed, but one can only be so "strong".

 

[Richard_H]

Really feel for you. Got a call myself Xmas day as grandma had been taken ill. Was told to expect the worst but once again she's pulled around.

 

[tundra9]

Really feel for you. Got a call myself Xmas day as grandma had been taken ill. Was told to expect the worst but once again she's pulled around.

Glad to hear she is better mate, been having calls like that myself for the past year, my gran has always gotten better after a few days being ill,
but I guess this is her time.

 

[sith-smith]

Really sorry to hear all this.

Can't be pleasant to say the least.

 

[Frunkstar]

So so sorry to hear that things are getting worse for your Grandmothers health & you & your familys predicament regarding it, you know I am here if I can be of any use Jorn, my thoughts are with you m8.

Fingers crossed she improves somewhat over the coming days & that you get yourself sorted for the move back home in good time.

 

[Jez]

Sorry to hear this sad news Jorn.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Lovely photo on FB mate

 

[tundra9]

Thanks guys, can only hope she doesn't give up anytime soon.

Sorry to hear this sad news Jorn.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Lovely photo on FB mate

Thanks Jez, the best pic I could find of just me and her.

 

[maniac79]

So sorry to read that. Sucks to wait for the inevitable.