OT: Just lost a good friend

[Joe]

Sadly, my good friend Tom who I spoke to almost every day lost his fight to cancer yesterday. While we've known of his condition for over a year now and had spoken about his treatment with him many times I guess I never really thought about him not pulling through, I'd always just say to him "Keep fighting dude, won't be long before you are back on your feet" and he would say "yep that's the plan!" and we would carry on talking.

He was one of the most inspirational people I have ever met and considering what he was going through - one of the most upbeat and positive too.

I've spent most of today thinking about him, bursting into tears randomly and then laughing at things we spoke about and the jokes we shared.

Life is far too short and sometimes it is very very cruel. I wish good health to everyone and their families on the forum and the middle finger to cancer.

Miss and love you Tom. RIP my friend.

 

[Grant_C]

Dam Joe,

****.

Sorry to hear that mate.

I can only offer you words at this time and say- you got loads of mates on here you love your bones.

Come down to Farthest From V in 2 weeks and hopefully ease your thoughts a little.

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

Grant.

 

[tiefighterboy]

It's always sad to lose someone close to you and cancer is a horrible way to go. I lost my mother to it. Keep your chin up.

 

[PGowdy]

That's very sad. Sorry to hear that Joe.

 

[itfciain]

Have been lucky so far and not lost a close friend or family member in that way yet but the older we get the more chance it will happen. I feel for you Joe but I am sure that he would like you to remember the good times and would be proud of the way that he has made an impact in your life

 

[Frunkstar]

Really feel for you Joe, have lost a few friends over the years & it leaves a big hole in your heart & your head, lost both my parents to the big C, no way to go for sure.

Like the others have said already, you know you always have friends here mate & thinking of the good times like Iain says is IME the best way to respect your friend & keep a positive outlook.

 

[Joe]

Thank you guys, I do appreciate your posts. Going to focus on the positives as much as possible, we were all very lucky to have him in our lives. I just wanted to post here because I've known many of you for quite some time and well, I needed to talk about him a little more I guess.

Tom was actually a couple of years younger than me but..he will forever be my hero (even if he didn't know it).

This one is for you Tom

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[Michael Sith]

very sad news Joe, really sorry to hear of the loss of a good friend, in such a way.

As you say try to stay focused on the positives that your friend brought to your life, and the impact he had use that to carry his memory forward, as a little piece of everyone can live on in the people they have touched throughout their lives.

Keep positive bud,

Sorry for your loss.

 

[Richard_H]

Sorry to hear this. Cancer is the most evil disease and I really hope we find a cure one day. Hope his family are suffering too much. Let us know about any donation funds.
Cancer is heriditary in my gf family. Both her mother and grandmother died of cancer in their mid 40s. She's now 42. She's paranoid as hell.

 

[BlueDog]

Hey Joe,

So sorry to hear you've lost your mate bud, bloody sad. Not sure what else to say but think of all the great times you fellas had together and he'll live on always in your memories.

Ryan

 

[weasel]

Really sorry to hear that mate. Cancer is a bastarding disease. Lost my best mate to it when I was 11 and the auld fella last summer.

Nothing any of us can say that will make you feel any better, or make the hurt stop. You just have to remember the good times and try to get through it. I doubt your friend would want you mourning him forever. Take your time and grieve for him, remember the laughs you had and the daft **** you did. Don't be ashamed of the spontaneous crying, that's perfectly normal and all part of the grieving process.
I don't believe in the after life, but I always felt while you remember someone and the things you did, that a little bit of them is still with you.

You know where we are.

 

[Grant]

Joe man, I'm really sorry to hear about this Fella, Its one of the toughest things life can throw at you. I lost one of my best mates to cancer less than 18 months ago. I was the last person to see the guy before he passed away in a hospice. Toms suffering is over man try and take some solace from that. I know its hard tho Dude. If you need to talk drop me a PM man I'm never to far away. Its times like this that make you realise whats important and what isn't...

Grant.

 

[plantman]

Sorry to hear this Joe, cancer is horrible and it seems unfair for it to fall upon the people that get it.

hopefully your fond memories will stay at the front of your mind.

Andy

 

[PIGCITY]

Sorry to hear of the loss of your good friend Joe. Positive thoughts

 

[Jez]

So sorry to hear of your great friend's passing.
I can only echo what everyone else has so eloquently written; thoughts with you and his family mate.

The game of life has some rules which just baffle me, cancer is such a cruel illness.

Stay strong dude

 

[Captainsolo1978]

That is totally crap.

Sorry to hear that RIP

 

[spoons]

Saw your FB post Joe, but no idea it was someone so close to you - really sorry to hear this

Hope the good memories get you through

 

[jedisearcher]

That's very sad news Joe, stay strong.

 

[Rebel_Runner]

Deeply sorry for you loss. Stay stong and positive.

Life truly is too short. We need to make the most of it whilst we're here.

 

[Caswellbot]

I'm really sorry to hear that Joe mate. I hope you are holding up ok. Focus on the good times buddy.