I think I'm getting old - rant about manners....

[darth_daddius]

Hi guys,

Am I the only one who starts a message with "Hi (insert name)" and ends it with " Regards/Cheers, Pat"?

I am astounded that when people pm and email nowadays, they NEVER use their name. Am I getting too old? Are manners just not 'cool' any more?

Cheers
Pat

 

[lejackal]

It's not just you mate, and yes on reading this I did just check the message I sent you to make sure it wasn't me

 

[Lindo]

Hi
Nope your not mate I do it also, politeness doesn't cost anything, are some ignorant people about though.

Regards Ian

 

[darth_daddius]

It's not just you mate, and yes on reading this I did just check the message I sent you to make sure it wasn't me

Hah! That's pretty funny.

 

[Lindo]

^^

 

[Michael Sith]

Totally agree, manners cost nothing and show respect and consideration for others.

 

[Joe]

I always make sure I say "Hi___" to whoever I am sending a message to and I also sign off with my name even though it's a little bit pointless these days when your username/email address is displayed on screen :lol:

Not sure if this is related to manners/being old but that very well mannered and old man Michael Sith always writes my name in capitals whenever he emails me :mrgreen:

 

[sith-smith]

I generally try to on the first message. And if it's someone I don't know well, will continue to do so.

But with someone I know well and communicate with regularly and so have messages coming and going over the course of an hour, I won't keep it going


Possibly a mixture of familiarity and laziness!

 

[theforceuk]

I'm the same as Iian, first message Hi whoever and sign of cheers Adam. But some times I feel it gets annoying saying Cheers Adam at the end of every message. I agree with first post basically. :lol:

 

[darth_daddius]

I generally try to on the first message. And if it's someone I don't know well, will continue to do so.

But with someone I know well and communicate with regularly and so have messages coming and going over the course of an hour, I won't keep it going


Possibly a mixture of familiarity and laziness!

No - I get that Gary. And, I see no problem with that at all. Its when you have no idea who they are, never dealt with them before, and you get a one line "I'm interested in your such and such".

And then you start having a conversation with them, and you still have no idea who you're actually talking to. To be honest, I find it's worse on RS than here. Maybe its more a thing in the US than the UK and Australia. I also wondered if its the whole texting/facebook/tweeting thing where its all about a quick reply.

In any case, I hate it. And we all know where hate leads....

Pat

 

[stormcab]

Hi

Is this Star Wars vintage collection chat, or have I stumbled onto a manners forum by accident?

Best regards, Justin

 

[Chancellor_Peter]

Hi guys,

Am I the only one who starts a message with "Hi (insert name)" and ends it with " Regards/Cheers, Pat"?

Hi Pat,

You are not the only one.

Cheers,
Peter :mrgreen:

 

[Ian_C]

It's been getting this way for years. I agree that it's an age thing. Being in my 40's, I remember when people actually mailed hand written letters, that typically began "Dear ____" and ended with "Regards, ____", or similar wording. I ALWAYS sign off on my forum posts with my name, and I had people at RS occasionally make light of the "stupid" practice.

In private messaging, I'll begin a conversation with "Hi ___", whether I begin the conversation or answer a first message, and typically end the initial message with my name, and drop them once a conversation is underway.

It's how I was raised at home and in school for correct written communication standards. Sadly, it's a practice being lost to time.

Ian

 

[aussiejames]

"Cheers mate." :wink:

 

[peekaygee73]

I'm completely with you on this one. On other forums I've had PM conversations go on for several days before I've finally had ask: "Sorry mate, but what's your name?"

It's something I've noticed with many of the younger (20-something) supposedly well-educated engineers at work. All their communication is by email, but they don't know how to put a formal (or even, in some cases, informal) email together. Add to that the fact it's usually illegible as they don't feel the need to use punctuation, grammar or spelling... :evil:

 

[steve obi wan]

Hi everyone,

Manners cost nothing , however Star Wars do , so always say please and thank you , please

Thanks :lol:

 

[theguiltyone]

Unfortunately its not an age thing and it really does piss me off when I get a PM that launches straight into a lowball offer.
Inclusions of Hi, Bye, Please and Thanks will increase your changes of maybe getting a reply, maybe


marc

 

[olisuds]

Is it perhaps just a forum thing where some people are private about their identities?

Perhaps some people don't know your real name unless your username makes it obvious.

It bugs me but i always give people the benefit of the doubt. I respond with my name. If they reply again with just a Hi, and sign off without their name again then that starts to piss me off. Especially if they're getting in contact hoping to do a deal on something of high value.

There's one guy I've been dealing with for a number of years now. I've bought £thousands worth of stuff from him over time. He's always polite but I don't think i ever recall him using my name EVER!

 

[Ian_C]

Unfortunately its not an age thing and it really does piss me off when I get a PM that launches straight into a lowball offer.
Inclusions of Hi, Bye, Please and Thanks will increase your changes of maybe getting a reply, maybe


marc

NO KIDDING.

If I have a figure for sale for say, $500, and someone messages me with a polite introduction and asking if I would consider $350, I'll consider it and respond in a polite manner. If the same figure gets a reply of "I'll give you $350 for it" and nothing else, chances are I'm dismissing them outright and probably not using many manners in my response.

Do people really think that's a positive way to negotiate with a seller?

Ian

 

[mumbo]

Hello all

I know where your coming from but it doesn't really bother me, it's just the way of the world right now.

I'm pretty sure 99% of the time I'll start and end my messages with the appropriate etiquette.

Regards
Mumbo