I always ask the seller if he is willing (at my risk) to mark the value down so i dont get charged, some sellers dont mind, some do which is understandable.
The handling fee is a total rip off, really..legally thaey cant pay something on your behalf without your permission then hold onto your property which you have paid for until you pay their fee's. but nobody can be bothered to scrimp over £12/£8 and thats how they get away with it.
customs is just a load of bollocks, another way for the government to line their pockets for a third home and some porn movies on us!!!