Richard_H
Grand Master
Buried my grandmother today - the matriarch of the family. 9 children, 21 grand children, and we gave up counting the great grand children. Been a really difficult time and I guess we all get to a point where we wonder what our legacy will be. I'm thinking too that a point comes where it's funeral, after funeral, after ....
Unfortunately she assumed that she was covered by her husbands funeral plan but now we come to use it she's not covered as she had to go first. :evil:
Saw a lot of people today that I've not seen since I was little. So many people attended that the church had to close its doors.
I didn't take my kids. Don't know if I did the right thing. My son will forget all about her (if he hasn't already) my daughter will remember her but she'll fade in memory to become the old woman who used to live near the library.
Been waiting for my other grandmother to pass on for about 6 years. That's got to happen soon. That'll be the last of that generation for my family with my parents and their siblings being the oldest generation.
Been through all of the ... I wish I had have seen her more, took my kids, etc etc. And at some point I'll be thinking the same about my parents. But neither of them bother to come to my house. My Dad has visited 3 times in 18 years, mother lives in Malta but visited about twice a year if lucky and stayed only minutes.
No way will I be like that with my kids and their kids. I'll be one of those proud grandparents who will be taking them to the swimming baths, beach, holidays etc
But it's the way things are done up here traditionally. The kids visit the parents (usually at the place they live - aka the pub). I'm looking to move about 20 minutes out of the area by car but already expect to be ostracised. Almost am already at only 5 minutes away.
I think what makes it difficult was that her house was where we all went to see not only her but any of the other family that we'd bump into. Now that her door has closed I think it'll be the next funeral before I see a lot of them.
Unfortunately she assumed that she was covered by her husbands funeral plan but now we come to use it she's not covered as she had to go first. :evil:
Saw a lot of people today that I've not seen since I was little. So many people attended that the church had to close its doors.
I didn't take my kids. Don't know if I did the right thing. My son will forget all about her (if he hasn't already) my daughter will remember her but she'll fade in memory to become the old woman who used to live near the library.
Been waiting for my other grandmother to pass on for about 6 years. That's got to happen soon. That'll be the last of that generation for my family with my parents and their siblings being the oldest generation.
Been through all of the ... I wish I had have seen her more, took my kids, etc etc. And at some point I'll be thinking the same about my parents. But neither of them bother to come to my house. My Dad has visited 3 times in 18 years, mother lives in Malta but visited about twice a year if lucky and stayed only minutes.
No way will I be like that with my kids and their kids. I'll be one of those proud grandparents who will be taking them to the swimming baths, beach, holidays etc
But it's the way things are done up here traditionally. The kids visit the parents (usually at the place they live - aka the pub). I'm looking to move about 20 minutes out of the area by car but already expect to be ostracised. Almost am already at only 5 minutes away.
I think what makes it difficult was that her house was where we all went to see not only her but any of the other family that we'd bump into. Now that her door has closed I think it'll be the next funeral before I see a lot of them.
