Woman troubles...

[browny]

Hello gents

Looking for some sound advice from you guys (if that is possible!)

The girlfriend has been giving it the "I never do anything" card and saying how she doesnt know if she wants to be with me anymore chat!?

Right the issue I need to sort out is - What more can I do, when I do the house chores,fund 75% of the house and allow her all the space she needs..

I dont say a great deal (which is how I have always been) but certainly wouldnt consider myself to be anti social?

I really dont want to split up with her (we have a little girl) and I think she is amazing,but equally I dont know what the hell is going on as nothing has changed on my part?

Another guy is a outside bet but we are rarely not working and spend our evenings together,never can rule it out though.

Any advice would be good gents.

 

[Joe]

Ask her exactly what it is she wants you to do exactly..if its take her out a few more times a month, spend some more time as a family etc then give it a try for the sake of your little one and hope for the best.

If it's sticking hot candle wax up her bum while you wear a green wig and sing ABBA songs..well that might not be something you want to take part in

Having said that, you might quite like it :mrgreen:

In all seriousness when women have had enough they have had enough, no amount of trying will get things back on track BUT if she really does want to stick with you then she needs to tell you what exactly she would like you to do in order for you to do it or give her the heave ho!

 

[plantman]

Well if your sure it isnt another bloke then it sounds like an excuse to me, if you do what you say you do maybe you need a break from each other?

sometimes we go through patches where we are fed up and a get away can do you a world of good.

If all seems fine on your side you really need to sit down and discuss all the problems, and ask her to be 100% honest!

 

[Frunkstar]

This is a tough one, been there b4 usually with me being the one saying what your better half is saying as I do tend to get bored to easily, but as the guys above have already said, there is little point running yourself ragged doing lots more stuff that you don't normally if its not the real issue, as if woman want something else/more its rarely that we men actually figure out what that more is no matter how much we try as man & women - some from Mars/Venus & are literally worlds apart in our thinking/thought patterns, you need to find out what the rout of the problem is for her & work on that should it really be something you are slacking with, as its all to easy when in a long time relationship to get complacent & knowing or not take advantage of one another, which is hard to see from inside the relationship.

Does she have a/any good female friends that she hangs out with/confides in that your on a chatty basis with?, as another good way is to find out through them, as women often confide there innermost stuff only with others of the same species :lol: :?

But the best thing is to act now if you value what the 2/3 of you have, which you seem to be by this post alone so give yourself a big pat on the back as a lot of men would not bother & are far to in touch with there macho side for there own good.

I do hope this pans out for you.

 

[jackabina]

sounds like you're both stuck in a rut mate. i suggest doing something spontaineous, and catch her off guard. if the little one is old enough to be left for a night with a grandparent, book a night away at a show, or something that interests her.
if she still doesn't play ball, do whats best for the youngling. cut your losses and move on.
hope this works out for you buddy :wink:

 

[itfciain]

Think Neil's advise is spot on - try something a bit different and go outside your comfort zone - arrange for a day out to her favourite place, treat her to a nice meal and get some spark back in your relationship

 

[Grant_C]

Men are stupid and women are mad.

As man you've already made a huge leap by seaking advice. Most don't and women mostly want to talk about personal issuies to anyone who will lend they're ear. Speak to close friends. Thats what their there for, especially one who are in a relationship, as they can tell you whats right underneath your nose. The last place to look.

Dont point the finger/blame.

The only thing of interest is where you are going wrong. Pointing the finger is easy. Look at yourself critically is difficult and humbleing. It takes time, honesty and a disolvement of ego and pride.

Be honest as well.

may the force......